pbrim: (goddess)
There is this feral cat hanging around our yard. I am no stranger to cats, I have two, my friends I rent the other side of the duplex to have 5, and the neighbor to the other side has 1. All 8 get along reasonably and wander in and out of each other's houses (we all have cat doors) and eat each other's food.

But now there is Yellow Cat moving in. He's been hanging around for several months and he is NOT tame. He has already beaten up on my dominate cat -- I just spent $1000 on treating an abscess. We've been talking about trying to gentle him down some and find a no-kill shelter to take him because we can't let him keep beating up our cats. Then today, he got into my house and was threatening my cats. I was trying to shoo him out the door, stupidly got too close, and he bit me. Not bad, but the skin is broken and bleeding in 4 or 5 places.

I know what I should do. I should call animal control. But if they can't locate an owner in 72 hours, they'll put him down and I know this is my fault. I knew he was scared and feeling cornered and I misjudged and got too close. I could lie to animal control about what he looks like, or just not report, but then I would have to get the rabies shots and that is not good. And we have to do something eventually -- he's too aggressive to let hang around our other cats. I don't know if we would ever be able to get him to a state where a no-kill shelter would accept him. I really don't know what to do.
pbrim: (goddess)
One thing about this that bothered me some time back -- there was a discussion (on TV, radio, I don't remember) that talked about when there was an emergency, like in an office building, men were wise enough to just get up and go, while women insisted on going back to their desks for their purses. I thought, "Yeah, but men have pockets! They have their 'purse' with them at all times!"

See, if my ex-husband had just walked out, he would have had with him emergency doses of his most important meds, cash and credit cards, his cell phone, keys to his car and house, ID, emergency contact numbers, and a pocket knife -- all important urban survival tools. I would have had none of that without my purse. I would have at least hesitated and considered going back for it, and not because I am "foolishly attached to things just as things" . Pockets make a difference! Which is one reason I love my jeans! (Mom jeans, that is, with lovely big pockets).

Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] hitchhiker at What we talk about when we talk about pockets
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] merchimerch at What we talk about when we talk about pockets
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] kylecassidy at What we talk about when we talk about pockets
This post is about pockets, feminism, design, autonomy and common sense. Please feel free to repost or link to it if you know people who'd benefit from the discussion.

A few weeks ago [livejournal.com profile] trillian_stars and I were out somewhere and she asked "Oooh, can I get a cup of coffee?" and I thought "why are you asking me? You don't need permission." But what I discovered was that her clothes had no pockets, so she had no money with her.

Mens clothes have pockets. My swimsuits have pockets. All of them do, and it's not unusual, because, what if you're swimming in the ocean and you find a fist full of pirate booty in the surf? You need somewhere to put it. Men are used to carrying stuff in their pockets, you put money there, you put car keys there. With money and car keys come power and independence. You can buy stuff, you can leave. The idea of some women's clothes not having pockets is baffling, but it's worse than that -- it's patriarchal because it makes the assumption that women will either carry a handbag, or they'll rely on men around them for money and keys and such things. (I noticed this also when Neil & Amanda were figuring out where her stuff had to go because she had no pockets.) Where do women carry tampons? Amanda wondered, In their boyfriend's pockets, Neil concluded.

I then noticed that none of [livejournal.com profile] trillian_stars' running clothes had pockets. Any pockets. Which is (as they always say on "Parking Wars") ridikulus. Who leaves the house with nothing? (It's not a rhetorical question, I actually can't think of anybody).

We fixed some of this by getting this runners wrist wallet from Poutfits on Etsy -- it holds money, ID, keys ... the sort of stuff you'd need. Plus you can wipe your nose on it. It solves the running-wear problem, but not the bigger problem.




Clickenzee to Embiggen!



The bigger problem is that people who design women's fashions are still designing pants and jackets that have no pockets. In fact, this jacket we got last December has ... no pockets. It's not a question of lines or shape, it's a question of autonomy.



Clickenzee to Embiggen



So I'm asking my friends who design women's clothes to consider putting pockets in them, they can be small, they can be out of the way, they can be inside the garment, but space enough to put ID, and cash and bus tokens. And maybe a phone. (And if you can design a surreptitious tampon stash, I'm sure Neil & Amanda & a lot of other people would appreciate it as well.)





Add me: [LiveJournal] [Facebook] [Twitter] [Google+] [Tumblr]
[Roller Derby Portraits]
pbrim: (Default)
Determination over all!

pbrim: (Default)
Well, the bad news is that tube feeding a cat can be very messy. The good news is, it seems to be effective as well.

When I went to pick him up yesterday, my poor baby all groggy from surgery and with a tube coming out of him, I started having second thoughts again, as usual. I started thinking that I over-reacted and subjected my poor kitty to unneccessary things and surely, if I had only given him another day or two, he would have started eating again. But the staff at the vet had not been able to get him to eat either and it was now 3 days without eating. He had lost 7% of his body weight since Monday.

He got his first tube feeding this morning. While it clearly felt odd and he didn't like it, he didn't fight too much either. And when we were taking a pause, he actually licked up some of his "tube food" from a spoon! Not much, but something. And when it was over, he didn't run and hide, but sat next to me on the sofa, giving himself a through grooming -- the first time I have seen him grooming himself this week. So it's clearly what was needed.

Plus his fever is gone, and the tests and x-rays still aren't finding anything wrong. Hopefully the antibiotics are kicking in and the tube feeding will break the cycle of "Feel Crappy --> Don't Eat --> Feel Crappier --> Eat Less" etc.

I will try to get pictures of him with his tube this weekend. He goes in for a re-check on Monday, and it would be real nice if he is eating enough orally by then that we could take the tube out. But I'm not going to put pressure on him or me -- he'll be ready when he's ready. I do think we'll get there, though. (It does make it much easier to give pills though!)
pbrim: (Default)
Malcolm eats out
I could use some prayers/good thoughts for one of my fur-babies, Malcolm. He started getting sick on Monday, running a fever, lethargic, and not wanting to eat much. Antibiotics have taken care of the fever, but it is now Thursday afternoon and he hasn't eaten a thing since Tuesday morning. He won't even lick up tuna juice. This can be very dangerous in cats, especially overweight cats, and can lead to liver failure.

He's been to the vet twice, and is back again. He is getting a feeding tube put in today and some x-rays to see if there is anything else going on. He's 7, which is getting up there for a cat, but he's been pretty heathy up until now. I've gone through these kind of extended illness, big medical intervention stuff before with cats, but it was usually end-of-life care for 19-20 year olds. He can be a major pain in the butt, but he's way too young to lose him now!
pbrim: (Default)
OK, I know Malcolm hunts; I've seen him in the back yard with a mouse in his mouth (which explains why he isn't losing weight as fast as the vet would like, even on the expensive diet cat food). Also, he and Kaylee have a tendency to bring small snakes into the house to play with. These they do not eat, they just leave the bodies laying around. Fortunately, they tend to mummify rather than rot. Well, except for that one that managed to crawl into the pocket of my jeans on the floor before dying -- that body ended up flying in the air over a retail counter when I went to pay for purchases the next day, scaring the shit out of the cashier and me, both. But that's another story.

So when both cats were excitedly hunkering over something in the middle of the living room floor this morning, I figured it was another snake. I got up to rescue it, which distracted the cats -- which is when Malcolm's bird got loose and started flying around. My first thought was to dash back to the bedroom to put on some clothes. Since most of our neighbors are Muslim (most of the women wear hijab and a couple of them niqab), I didn't think chasing a bird out of the house while semi-naked would gain me any "Good Neighbor" points. The sculpture of a zombie in my front flowerbed is enough to overcome already.

But when I got back into the living room the bird was nowhere in sight,and the cats were laying around with expressions of "No, Mama, we didn't lose anything. What is this "bird" object you are referring to?" I eventually found the bird and threw a towel over it to capture it. It looked like an adolescent, and didn't have any obvious injuries, so it got a lecture about stupid teen-age behavior and how to recognize and stay away from danger, and was released outside. It promptly flew off into the bushes across the street, but I don't have high hopes for it having a long lifespan. It was appallingly easy for both Malcolm and me to catch. But it did get the day off to an exciting start.
pbrim: (Default)
I think my cat Mal is a little too sensitive to the nip. I gave them some when they were mostly kittens, but Kaylee was never really interested, and Mal would roll around in it and make a big mess. But recently a friend gave me some of her old nip and I thought I would see how they would react. This wasn't the good stuff, this was older, stale nip that her cats were turning up their noses at.

It did not go well. Mal ate all his nip, went over and chased his sister off to eat her nip, then started beating her up for looking at him funny (as in serious rolling around and yowling at each other). After I intervened and Kaylee ran off, he spent a half hour with his turbo track toy, obsessively rolling the ball around and around the circular track, then threw up on the carpet and passed out on the sofa. He is now snoring away, while Kaylee looks at me accusingly like "What did you do to him, Mama?"

I think I need to not give him nip anymore. He's a mean drunk.

Colbert

May. 12th, 2012 02:11 pm
pbrim: (Default)
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] louisadkins at Colbert
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] griffen at Colbert
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] mattblakk at Colbert
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] kyburg at Colbert
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] mountain_hiker at Colbert


pbrim: (Default)
Same-sex marriage has been in the news lately, good and bad, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot. Like the President, my thinking has been evolving on the matter. What you hear from antis a lot is that “This would change the definition of marriage!” My first reaction is “Of course not! In fact, it’s strengthening the definition of marriage!” But as I think about it more, I have come to realize they are right. We are changing the definition of marriage.

But here’s the thing: We’ve been changing that definition for a long, long time.
Settle in, this gets long )

So, long winded, but here’s the point. The question is not, “Is the definition of marriage going to change?”, that’s a given. It’s been changing for thousands of years and will continue to change for thousands more, however this issue is decided. Viewed from one angle, this is no real change, and although it is a radical change viewed from another angle, no more so than other changes made in the last few decades that are now commonly accepted. The real question is, “How are we going to change marriage?” Are we going to follow the trend of giving more and more freedom to individuals to make their own choices, with minimal government involvement, or are we going to reverse that into a more restrictive model where the government has the ability to make choices for you in your most intimate relationships? Because, make no mistake, people are going to continue to fall in love, commit to each other, and form families (with or without children), whether the government recognizes those relationships legally or not. That’s just what people do and have always done since we first became people. Are we going to let the government decide which families are valuable and which can be thrown away, or are we going to stay true to the long held principle that strong families make for a strong society and extend protection to ALL families?
pbrim: (Default)
You know, I wonder if, when Newt fires all the school janitors, their kids would be considered poor enough to do for pocket change the job their parent used to do to earn a living? And why, in this time of massive unemployment, all the re-thugs are so thrilled with an idea that only puts even more people out of work?
pbrim: (too old)
I have seen this game touted in at least two journals, with no warnings, and I wanted to warn others who might be as distressed as I am. The game is called "Puppy Shelter", and ostensibly it is a puzzle game to "train" cute little puppies to get them adopted-- 15 levels. The problem is that after you train the puppies, the shelter opens for adoptions, then closes and none of the puppies are ever adopted. You are required to "put down" all of the current group of puppies to advance to the next level.

I know it's just clicking on pixilated images, and I know I am probably too soft-hearted, but I found the whole thing very distasteful. Frankly the puzzles were not worth the effort even if there were no dead puppy imagery involved. Apparently the whole point is to teach people that life isn't fair or something. Thanks, I learned that lesson a half century ago, I don't need a refresher from some kid on the internet.
pbrim: (Default)
OK, enough already with the heat! Temps over 100 every day for a month, with no end in sight was bad enough. Temps of 110 every day this week, causing rolling blackouts, is even worse. But now the light rail is warning of delays of up to half an hour during afternoon commutes because the tracks are getting up to 140-160 and the trains must slow down to no more than 40 MPH to avoid damaging the rails! And this is expected to continue everyday for the rest of this week and into next week at least.

I know Texas is hot in August -- I've lived here for nearly 40 year. But not this hot, not this sustained! AAARGH!

(But global warming is totally a liberal myth designed to destroy the American way of life, of course!)
pbrim: (Default)
I'm afraid I made a woman blush in public today. I went out to eat with some friends at a nice restraunt. It was a little crowded, so we were at a booth in the bar. It was noisy, but not so noisy that we couldn't hear this woman a couple of tables, with a particularly loud and piercing voice.

She was regaling her friends with her life's story: her pregnancies (both with a wonderful mid-wife, never saw a doctor, because what would Jesus think of her letting just any man poke around down there), her labors (12 hours with her daughter and 22 with her son), how she left her husband (she just picked up and left while he was at church, leaving him a letter; the fool never had a clue. Her daughter was 2 1/2 and her son wasn't born). But she really hit her stride when discussing her son. He was born with part of his bladder sticking out of his body and, my dears, the number of surgeries he had to go though! She detailed them all, and the side effects, and recovery process--not to mention in detail exactly how well his uro-genital tract is working now. (He did very well in college, but now the poor man just can't seem to find a job.)

I'm all for TMI among friends, but there is such a thing as over sharing with strangers. So as we were leaving, I walked over to her booth and said, "M'am, I'm sure the entire bar is very happy to learn that your son "can get hard and is able to ejaculate", but you may want to consider moderating your volume when discussing such things in public." (I get a little poly-syllabic when I get irked.) She just turned beet red and buried her face in her hand. I hope she will think twice about revealing someone else's personal things in public.
pbrim: (Default)
I have recently discovered Translation Party which apparently uses Google to translate back and forth between English and Japanese until you keep getting the same translation. I have spent way too much time amusing myself with this.

I find it interesting that "The right of the People to keep and bear arms shall not be abridged" stabilizes as "People, we must have the right to possess nuclear weapons." Ya know, I think I know some people who would find that a reasonable translation.

WTF?

Apr. 10th, 2009 10:07 pm
pbrim: (Default)
Wildfires burned thousands of acres of north Texas yesterday, wiping out whole small towns and rural areas. The local NPR station tonight interviewed one man who spoke of just loading up his family and their dog in the car and making a run for it. Then this miserable excuse for a human being said "We just took the cats and threw them out of the house to fend for themselves. They probably just got scared and ran back in, though."

WTF? You threw them out to "fend for themselves"? You took off in your car to get away, what did you expect they were going to do? Outrun the flames? There were no streams, no bodies of water even to take refuge in. What did you expect they were going to do except die horribly in fear and pain while you and your dogs ran away? Do you not even think?

People make me despair sometimes. Those poor kitties!
pbrim: (Default)
My boss is going to drive me crazy! She was today, once again bemoaning how this country is doomed to death and destruction since our new President was elected. She firmly believes that Sadam Hussein was in bed with Al Qaida in planning 9-11; that Hussein had large stockpiles of weapons of mass destruction and that we found them; that 95% of all Iraquis killed in the war have been terrorists; that only Guantanamo and Bush's policies have protected us against further devastating terrorist attacks (now ineveitable); that it is sometimes necessary to ignore the Constitution to protect our country and it's freedoms; that we have never tortured anyone.

On the last I had something to concretely weigh against that: Susan J. Crawford, the Bush administration apointee in charge of prosecutions at Guantanamo, the person who dropped charges against the "20th hijacker" al-Qahtani, has admitted we tortured him. However, she wants to see something in writing "not from a far left leaning source" before she will believe Crawford actually said it. And by "far left leaning source" she means such sources as NPR, ABC, CBS, AP.
And anything by any news source outside the country is inherently unreliable, as the whole world hates America and lies about us.
pbrim: (Default)
Woman says anti-abortion nurse removed IUD without permission then lectured her.

Text behind a cut for the link phobic )
Apparently this isn't the first time she has done this. Defendant Olona stated, 'Everyone in the office always laughs and tells me I pull these out on purpose because I am against them, but it's not true, they accidentally come out when I tug.' I would have sued not only the nurse involved, but everyone else that let her continue treating patients with IUDs. I'm afraid I would also be up on assault charges as well, though, against the nurse. I've had an IUD; getting one replaced is not easy, comfortable, or cheap, and it's not covered by insurance even if you have it.
pbrim: (Default)
So I was watching a Law and Order:SVU the other day. It was all about this woman Marine who was raped by a superior officer in Iraq and gets pregnant. Once she is stateside, she goes AWOL as the only way she can get to this specialized (civilian) counseling program for women who were in the military and were raped or assaulted by their fellow officers, because she is getting no help whatsoever from the military. (There is some talk about how common this is.) She is eventually murdered by her rapist, and (this being a Dick Wolfe show) it is deemed to be mostly the fault of the rapist's wife who lures the Marine away so her husband can kill her (the Marine) and dispose of the body of the fetus, thus making sure there is no evidence of the rape, and her (the wife) perfect marriage to this man is not endangered.

ANYWAY, what is the one most frequent commercial during this show? One that airs no less than three times in a one hour show? One of those Army recruitment ads aimed at convincing parents their kids will be better off for enlisting, featuring a woman soldier and her father who is so proud of how well she is treated by the Army and how her self-confidence has soared and how she can handle anything now. Yea, like harassment, abuse, and rape, and being told it's all her fault? Pay attention people, ad placement is important.
pbrim: (Default)
My company is having open enrollment this month, where people pick insurance plans & other benefit options. There is one screen where you enter or verify information for Insured, Spouse and Dependents (Name, DOB, SSN, etc). For the first time, there is are Male/Female ticky boxes for both Insured AND Spouse. The times they are a-changing (though not fast enough)!

When I married in 84, I didn't change my name. Most government forms, including IRS forms, had places only for Last Name, Husband's First Name, Wife's First Name. Now the government has come to realize that some couples hetero-surnamed and some are same-surnamed. We hetero-surnamed couples are not traditional (although we do have a history going back to at least the 1860's), but we present no threat to those who prefer the more traditional same-surnamed family structure. There are even some who are are hyphen-surnamed, somewhere in-between. Although we are the minority, the government has recognized that we exist and changes have been made to accommodate us. Would that all such changes were so easy!

(BTW, in days when divorce and unwed parenthood are so common that IRS forms specifically allow for different surnames for each child, what exactly does "the sanctity of marriage" mean anymore?)
pbrim: (Default)
Copy this sentence into your livejournal if you're in a heterosexual marriage/relationship (or if you think you might be someday), and you don't want it "protected" by the bigots who think that gay marriage hurts it somehow.

OK, so my marriage is a failure. My goal is to have the divorce final before my 25th anniversary next May. The problem is simple: My husband is an asshole, and I was at first so foolish to think that, while he was an asshole to others, he would treat me differently because I love him and he says he loves me, then later so foolish as to think that things would get better when x happend or y quit happening. Finally I was so stubborn that I was unwilling to give up on promises made, until I realized that sticking with this mistake was killing both of us. Our relationship was not strengthend by other hetero marrigages around us, or weakened by gay marriages. It's failure was strictly due to our own flaws and I resent anyone else pretending to know what is going on between my husband and myself. By law and by religion, marriage is a sacred bond between two people whose privacy is not to be breached. Spouses can't testify against each other pecisely because society feels there is a value in protecting the privacy of that bond. If you want to protect the sanctity of marriage, then respect the sacredness of that private bond by keeping your nose out of it. Let people marry whoever they love and mind your own business!

The anti-marriage people also say that they are trying to protect children. I say that protection of children is one important reason for marriage equality. One thing that struck me about all those pictures from the Valentine's day weddings in SF that started all this was how many had their children with them. Children of a marriage have certain rights, such as the right to be supported by both parents, even if they end up splitting up. If one parent dies, they are entitled to inherit from that parent, and they can't easily be taken from the continuity of living with the surviving parent. But we are building a two tiered system in this country where certain children, and certain families are deemed to be worthy of support and protection from society, and other children and families are deemed to be lacking, to be unworthy of support. It is time that we recognize that every child is precious, every child is deserving of every protection society has to offer, regardless of who their parents are. The best way to do that is to recognize all families legally, and to extend to all children the time tested protections and support now only available to some.
Page generated Oct. 16th, 2017 09:49 pm
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios