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I went to the marriage counselor alone today (my husband was too busy with his fireworks business). We talked about how he's getting better at doing things for himself, even things a year ago he would have said he couldn't handle. And I'm getting better at not jumping in to "fix" things for him. Then she gave me an assignment. She said, "You know, it's still all one way. There's been changes in what you will or won't do for him, but it's still all about what he needs and you provide. I want you to think of something you want him to do for you."

I couldn't do it. I still can't. I have three weeks until our next apointment to think of something, but I'm lost. I know I have gotten the gumption to say, "No, I'm not doing that for you anymore." I know what I want to do for myself and by myself, now that we aren't living together. But I can't think of anything I want him to do for me. For that matter, I can't think of anything I would ask *anyone* to do for me. I guess I'm still too absorbed in wanting to take care of others to think about what other can do for me.

I'm going to have to work on this one.

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Oo! Oo! I remembered something I have asked someone for recently. I asked codecattx to fix my computer for me which he did in a magnificent manner. (Ok, well, he gave me a new computer and put my old drives and modem in it. But he also installed Windows XP for me.) It's been up for 4 days now and hasn't crashed or frozen once! Bounce! Bounce! I've never had a computer do that since I went to Windows. I just come in and sit down and it *works*! Always! Thanks again, David!

Plus also I asked valkyrwench to build my old computer in the first place, which she did excellently. (I hope it doesn't sound like she did something wrong with the computer she built, it was a cool computer that ran as well as any I have had before for almost a year.) Thanks, Ali!

I guess I can ask people for things after all, if I get desparate enough.